by A Master/slave relationship has two main ingredients; the Master and his slave. Just like cake, the two main ingredients are the batter and the filling. Of course, both have additional ingredients that can make a huge difference between a so-so and an exceptional one. They also share other common elements; both require skill, patience, and experience. Naturally, I simplified this comparison.
I might add that both come in many flavors. The principle behind M/s is simple, even if it sounds very rigid at first. Yet, within that stern foundation, it can be extremely flexible if one wants that. Depending on the Master’s nature and how he looks at and wishes to use his slave. Does he care about her, or she is nothing more than a fuckmeat to use? Many slaves want just that! Some want love and a romantic relationship, while others prefer a mean, sadistic person, to inflict pain and nothing else. A few sadly want to progress into a totally different realm: have their bodies destroyed, turning themselves into a subhuman.
A slave should invest some time to ensure that she is making a wise choice out of the hundreds, if not thousands of wannabe dominants who call themselves a Master. The “Master” term is used very loosely these days. A Master of what exactly?
Master or Owner?
I prefer using the term Owner to reflect the reality of the relationship. I just do not want a slave to subordinate over, but to own her body, mind, and soul. It is easy to make physical demands, such as “spread your legs bitch” than get into her mind and soul.
One must understand what the other person the “slave” wants out of the consensual M/s relationship. As mentioned above already, be a fuckmeat, a masochist, an extreme, or just someone who is into kinky sex and submits for that alone, otherwise, want a vanilla relationship. For me, all are different. Can one person be all of these? Yes! Just like a cake can have many different layers all with different flavors (the slave’s desires) and the batter part (the Master) holds it all together. Everyone is different and no two M/s relationships are exactly alike thus the different layers mixed together create the cake.
This applies to the Master’s, to be more precise, the Owner’s nature and capabilities. I can only speak for myself and about my needs. My preference is for a slave who desires a stern, structured, usage (not necessarily sex). Inflicted pain because she is a masochist, and I am a sadist. Corporal discipline desires with no empathy for her treatment. She wants to feel important and appreciated for her subservience but doesn’t want to be my girlfriend or wife, just to be owned by me. If I enjoy her servitude and looks (as I am very visual), I can offer what she requires to keep her happy. I’ve learned from the previous relationship in M/s to fall in love will change the dynamic. It doesn’t mean I can not have loving feelings for her. In the same sense, I love a favorite book, painting, or other possessions, as I value and take good care of them. In a real-life situation, not a fantasy one, a 24/7 TPE has some vanilla moments. Naked and collared with a leash in my presence inside our home, or occasionally outdoors when we are having fun, is one thing, but not applicable in the environment of the vanilla world. Keeping my slave in a dungeon is not an option. I do not have one or would. A cage can be fun for occasional play or as a tool used in the discipline. I like my slave to be healthy, clean, inviting to my senses, and not sick or filthy. Not interested in turning her into a valueless subhuman or abusing her physically or emotionally. Like a cake it has to look appetising and whole, not squished or flattened.
Are you ready for our cake?
Important to understand what the potential slave’s physiological and physical needs are. Are her desires based upon films, and books without any real-life experience, because they sound exciting? Can she differentiate between a submissive, a quasi-slave, and a real one? Does she understand the implications? Clear communication is the main factor in any relationship but it is a must in M/s, just like a clear and precise recipe when making a cake.
Do you have the right ingredients? Are you ready to make our cake?
